At times life feels like a race. Race to a good school. Race to a good college. Race for a better job. race for the best life. Race to be successful. And yeah, in between there is also a race to find the perfect life partner.
But among all this, do you know what is the toughest thing in life ???
I guess, you will respond
being successful ?
Or you will say, it is to find your Miss Perfect or Mr. Perfect..
No, it isn't.
To be successful is easy. You need to have clarity of thoughts, know yourself, know your goal, work towards it, make mistakes and on one fine day you will discover that you have passed the benchmarks of Being Successful.
For example, just look back at your own life. Whatever you are doing today, whatever you are earning, whatever relations you have......you must have had thought about this a couple of years back. With time, you will reach your future goals too.
Reverting back to my question, the toughest thing in life is Being Yourself. Yes,to be yourself is the toughest thing in life.
You must be wondering, what makes me say this..here is something for you, to ponder over :
Last night, I went to a party. I saw a little girl, with her group of girls gang, they were all eating the "noodles" . The girl was literally struggling to get the strands in her fork but alas! the poor girl was finding it so difficult. All her energy was shifted to "being good at table manners" , gone was the desire to relish the taste. She looked sad, even though she was very pretty and seemed to belong to a decent family too. If she enjoyed eating the noodles, in a way comfortable to her, hadn't she been a happier person??
Same way, why do we find it more satisfying and relishing to have food with our friends at a roadside "dhabha" ?? Surely the food is simple, friends are cracking jokes, we are eating the way we are most comfortable. In contrast, a formal dinner with the office colleagues, at a five star hotel, feels so artificial. During those dinners we watch the "watch" several times, with a hope it will end up soon.While at the "dhabha" we don't know how time flies.
The reason is simple : Life is much easier, simpler and happier, when we are ourselves. That is the reason, why we love being with our friends more than being with our relatives. We are emotionally programmed such that judgments and "that should be done like this" teaching and preaching, force us to define our lives, according to others. Eat with table manners, talk with full elegance, dance with the beats, live with a defined set of rules, sing as per the lyrics, dress up like the film stars : live like a programmed robot.
It should be noted, that here I don't intend to say that we should drop all the rules and mannerisms and live like wild beasts, doing whatever we like. But, we should have the courage to follow our heart at times and we should be ourselves at times. This will bring the spark back into lives, otherwise we will be bored of life itself.
Is it really easy for you to go to party, just to update your Facebook status, when in reality you want to go and find some time for your childhood passion of photography??
Do you love being in a relationship, just for a "Status Symbol", when the truth is you want to be a free bird??
Do you find sufficient time, to celebrate your own existence, to dance like no one is watching, to sing like no one is listening and to be yourself like no one is there to judge you???
Life is more enriched, when you smile for yourself
It is fun to shout and sing on the road while driving
It is hilarious to do belly dance without learning it
It is crazy to sing "Brazil...lalalala..." with the local instruments
It is fun to dance as well as sing, on your own beats
and, it is the best thing to be yourself, not always, but whenever you can grab the golden opportunity....
So, don't be with friends and smile, just to have the next "dp" of yours, do something damm crazy with your friends, such that you make up lively memories for the next 10 years....
Be yourself.....Do things for yourself....Smile sing dance and laugh on yourself......because there isn't any need to do everything for others......"you matter the most in your life"
Let the lips sing
Let the eyes roll
Let the body dance
Let the mind be limitless
Let the hair be messy
Let you room be untidy
Let your do to list, be empty
Let yourself live.....the life.......if not always, than at least at times....
Celebrate this New Year 2015, not for your social media friends, but for yourself, with your friends and the way you want it................
Enjoy the moments, live them and make memories in your hearts.......
But among all this, do you know what is the toughest thing in life ???
I guess, you will respond
being successful ?
Or you will say, it is to find your Miss Perfect or Mr. Perfect..
No, it isn't.
To be successful is easy. You need to have clarity of thoughts, know yourself, know your goal, work towards it, make mistakes and on one fine day you will discover that you have passed the benchmarks of Being Successful.
For example, just look back at your own life. Whatever you are doing today, whatever you are earning, whatever relations you have......you must have had thought about this a couple of years back. With time, you will reach your future goals too.
Reverting back to my question, the toughest thing in life is Being Yourself. Yes,to be yourself is the toughest thing in life.
You must be wondering, what makes me say this..here is something for you, to ponder over :
Last night, I went to a party. I saw a little girl, with her group of girls gang, they were all eating the "noodles" . The girl was literally struggling to get the strands in her fork but alas! the poor girl was finding it so difficult. All her energy was shifted to "being good at table manners" , gone was the desire to relish the taste. She looked sad, even though she was very pretty and seemed to belong to a decent family too. If she enjoyed eating the noodles, in a way comfortable to her, hadn't she been a happier person??
Same way, why do we find it more satisfying and relishing to have food with our friends at a roadside "dhabha" ?? Surely the food is simple, friends are cracking jokes, we are eating the way we are most comfortable. In contrast, a formal dinner with the office colleagues, at a five star hotel, feels so artificial. During those dinners we watch the "watch" several times, with a hope it will end up soon.While at the "dhabha" we don't know how time flies.
The reason is simple : Life is much easier, simpler and happier, when we are ourselves. That is the reason, why we love being with our friends more than being with our relatives. We are emotionally programmed such that judgments and "that should be done like this" teaching and preaching, force us to define our lives, according to others. Eat with table manners, talk with full elegance, dance with the beats, live with a defined set of rules, sing as per the lyrics, dress up like the film stars : live like a programmed robot.
It should be noted, that here I don't intend to say that we should drop all the rules and mannerisms and live like wild beasts, doing whatever we like. But, we should have the courage to follow our heart at times and we should be ourselves at times. This will bring the spark back into lives, otherwise we will be bored of life itself.
Is it really easy for you to go to party, just to update your Facebook status, when in reality you want to go and find some time for your childhood passion of photography??
Do you love being in a relationship, just for a "Status Symbol", when the truth is you want to be a free bird??
Do you find sufficient time, to celebrate your own existence, to dance like no one is watching, to sing like no one is listening and to be yourself like no one is there to judge you???
Life is more enriched, when you smile for yourself
It is fun to shout and sing on the road while driving
It is hilarious to do belly dance without learning it
It is crazy to sing "Brazil...lalalala..." with the local instruments
It is fun to dance as well as sing, on your own beats
and, it is the best thing to be yourself, not always, but whenever you can grab the golden opportunity....
So, don't be with friends and smile, just to have the next "dp" of yours, do something damm crazy with your friends, such that you make up lively memories for the next 10 years....
Be yourself.....Do things for yourself....Smile sing dance and laugh on yourself......because there isn't any need to do everything for others......"you matter the most in your life"
Let the eyes roll
Let the body dance
Let the mind be limitless
Let the hair be messy
Let you room be untidy
Let your do to list, be empty
Let yourself live.....the life.......if not always, than at least at times....
Celebrate this New Year 2015, not for your social media friends, but for yourself, with your friends and the way you want it................
Enjoy the moments, live them and make memories in your hearts.......
Wonderful thought and very well executed one :)
ReplyDeleteIts good to be crazy about urself :)
Thanks...i loved it that you enjoyed it :)
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